I want to hold my wedding at hotel, country clubs or community centres. But my pop insisted that we just have it at the MPH. Typical reasons: spacious, able to accommodate 1000 half-of-them-i-have-no-idea-who-they-are guests, easy access to my home should any relatives need to rest privately at, and so save my bucks for my own house which would be ready about 4 months after.
I want to have candy buffet for little farts to enjoy themselves. But my pop thinks that it's a total circus. So save my money on that for my own house which would be ready about 4 months after.
I want to have live stations like pisang goreng or putu piring. But my pop AND mom disagreed. So save my kaching-kaching on that for my own house which would be ready about 4 months after.
I want,
die-die want to have ice cream booth that carries softee and other scoop-flavors! But my pop refused to give in. It's a plain NO. The kind where the response came with a complete "non-negotiable" look. He didn't even entertain my pleas. So.. you know what im about to say.
Of course, my mind did wailed numerous times, "It's MY bloody wedding anyway!"
Thank God I told myself to
mengucap and stay cool. No point blowing my top. And certainly I do not wish to become insolent.
After looking at all of the positive angles, pop
IS helping me. I should be grateful.
Syukur alhamdullilah amin ya rabbal al amin.
I have read on forums about how some parents of BTBs are demanding in the sense that the poor stressed-out BTBs are trying so hard to cut costs but the momma & poppa want this and that. Why? Face-value
lorrrr. Has to be grand, otherwise,
paisey to face relatives and friends. If they (parents) help to fork out the moolahs, fair enough. Otherwise,
nasiblah.
Mom related to me about a relative's recent wedding where the bride's (or was it the groom's?) parents actually sold their roof..... just so they could afford a lavish vavavaBOMB wedding. And being the curious or kaypoh makcik, my mom just casually asked how much the wedding cost them. The parents answered, "Alah dua puluh ribu je.." and giggled.
Translation: "Oh.. only twenty thousand.."
I was stunned. I was stunned. And boy, was I stunned.
I am definitely not laughing nor am I trying to be mean. But hello? Are you joking? You people sold off your house which holds tremendous amount of sentimental value, just for a (only) 20K wedding? Seriously? I thought it was more like for a 200K wedding. =/
Frankly in my most honest opinion, 20K is the average that a Muslim bride/groom will need to spend in this age. It is not impossible to save 20K. You (referring to BTBs and BGTBs) know you are getting married, so jolly well get your jiggly bums off and earn your fluffy, rich, melt-in-your-mouth cake. You need to save. Thats a fact everyone knows. So be firm on yourself and diligently stash a specific amount monthly. Bonuses and extras from OT, add it on. Don't be sad or even hurt, coz that money ain't going anywhere but towards your big day! :)
I understand if you (blog reader) may be thinking, "Easier said than done, honey."
My retort would sound, "Im doing it too now, sweetheart." :)
Still, everyday I
doa to Allah for He would guide me strongly through, and distance me from untoward happenings.
InsyaAllah amin.
So hence! When I sat down and reflected on all these, I am very blessed that my parents love me and are thinking for me. They know I have the means to spend on extras for my once-in-a-lifetime event, but they want me to keep and use it more meaningfully for my other last-a-lifetime things/events. Awwww.. how I absolutely LOVE my parents! =-) *
teary-eyed*
Xoxo
(ps: in case you are wondering, that family who threw their home is currently renting a place in JB. Seikhlas hati I, I really, really hope and doa that it was all worth it for them.)
